Lessons Learned from a Fallen Pastor

Introduction (by Jim Newheiser) Recently, the BCC presented a blog about “Helping Adult Victims of Clergy Sexual Abuse,” authored by Caroline Newheiser along with an anonymous victim. A fallen pastor who read Caroline’s blog contacted me and wanted to tell his story as a warning to church leaders, so we have written this blog together. […]

Recent news reports have revealed the sad reality of several adult women who were victims of sexual misconduct by a man in spiritual leadership. The following article offers suggestions for the counselor who has the opportunity to counsel women in similar situations.1Though this article addresses female victims, men can also be victims of sexual abuse, […]

Counseling abuse, adult, church, compassion, fear, grief, hope, leadership, local church, sexual abuse, sexual immorality, shame, women/wives, womens ministry

For the past several months, the attention of the world has been focused upon the health crisis of the COVID-19 pandemic, in which tens of millions of people have been infected and hundreds of thousands have died. We pray that our political leaders will govern wisely and that doctors and scientists will be able to […]

During the COVID crisis, restrictions have been put in place which have sometimes kept people apart for the purpose of safety. For counseling cases in which there has been marital abuse the victim often must be separated from the abuser for the sake of safety. During this time, we counsel the abuser separate from the […]

Counseling abuse, conflict, covid-19, family, humility, marriage, mediation, reconcilation, repentance, safety, separation, transformation, wisdom

Do you remember playing the game Battleship when you were a kid? You would try to discover where your opponent had stationed his ships on a grid representing the ocean so you could shoot and sink them. One shot, however, wouldn’t sink a battleship. Some ships could be sunk with as few as two hits […]

Counseling abuse, anger, church, conflict, disrespect, divorce, impatience, local church, marriage

As we face our sin, we have to navigate between two unbiblical ditches. One is despairing that our sin is beyond forgiveness. The other is carelessly thinking we can violate God’s commands without experiencing painful repercussions. The fall of David in 2 Samuel 11 is one of the saddest accounts in all of Scripture. Yet […]

Counseling bible, consequence, forgiveness, grace, old testament, repentance, sin, theology, typology

Our culture is undergoing necessary restrictions because of the novel coronavirus. The consequences are creeping into our behavior, influencing habits, and affecting the joys of human interaction. These changes began slowly, as our culture sought to follow the rules of social distancing with the admirable goal of protecting others as well as ourselves from becoming […]

Counseling coronavirus, friendship, loneliness, physical touch

Have you ever wondered how involved a counselor should be in the life of a counselee? Have you ever thought, “It is fine to meet once a week, but I shouldn’t become more involved”? Do you ask yourself, “Am I being too nosy to ask my counselee to report on specific details of her life?” […]

Counseling accountability, counseling, discipleship, encouragement, equipping, training

I coauthored You Never Stop Being a Parent with Elyse Fitzpatrick in 2010.1You can find links for this book on https://jimnewheiser.com/publications/books/. You Never Stop Being a Parent has also been translated into Spanish. The book comes from personal experience and helps those who want to know how to parent adult children. If you want to […]

Books and Reviews, Counseling children, parenting, review

I once heard Sam Crabtree, who wrote one of my favorite books “Practicing Affirmation”, say that he had thought of writing a follow-up volume about “Practicing Correction”. But he said that if he did so, it would need to be a much longer book. This is because Sam realizes that correcting people can be complicated. […]

Counseling communication, correction, counseling, discipline, face-to-face, methodology, personal, rebuke

Jim Newheiser

Category: Counseling

Lessons Learned from a Fallen Pastor

Helping Adult Victims of Clergy Sexual Abuse

A Health Crisis, a Financial Crisis, and a Spiritual Crisis

A Phased Reopening of a Formerly Abusive Marriage

The Battleship of Abuse

3 Lessons from David’s Fall and Forgiveness

“I Miss Your Touch” — One of the Negative Effects of COVID-19

Is Accountability Too Intrusive?

Book Review of You Never Stop Being a Parent, by Michael Mock

Talk to Me, Don’t Text Me

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