During the COVID crisis, restrictions have been put in place which have sometimes kept people apart for the purpose of safety. For counseling cases in which there has been marital abuse the victim often must be separated from the abuser for the sake of safety. During this time, we counsel the abuser separate from the […]
The Battleship of Abuse
Do you remember playing the game Battleship when you were a kid? You would try to discover where your opponent had stationed his ships on a grid representing the ocean so you could shoot and sink them. One shot, however, wouldn’t sink a battleship. Some ships could be sunk with as few as two hits […]
What Does the Bible Say About Divorce and Remarriage?
James Newheiser, Jr. answers the question, “What does the Bible say about divorce and remarriage?” He addresses: Biblical grounds for divorce (:40) Unfaithfulness, repentance, forgiveness, and reconciliation (1:24) Abandonment and sanctification (6:00) When a spouse leaves (10:21) Abuse as a form of abandonment (12:25) When the abuser is a “believer” (14:40) The nature of the […]
Georgia Discipleship and Counseling Network Webinar: Jim and Caroline Newheiser
Helping in Cases Involving an Insubmissive Wife
Editor’s Note: In this first article of a three-part mini-series on the BCC Grace and Truth blog addressing counseling the husband of an insubmissive wife, Jim Newheiser discusses submission in light of biblical marriage roles and offers counsel on what can be done when a husband and wife have differing views on marriage roles. In other […]
Counseling Care for Domestic Abuse
I am VERY excited about the new IBCD observation video series on spousal abuse. Dr. Jeremy Pierre of Southern Seminary does an amazing job of portraying the subtle but coercive ways of the abuser. Chris Moles does a masterful job of confronting the abuser while gently educating the well-meaning pastor (played by Craig Marshall) on […]
Educating Your Elders About Abuse
Well-meaning church leaders often fail to distinguish between ordinary marital conflict and situations in which one spouse is abusing the other. The abusive spouse, usually the husband, is often able to manipulate inexperienced counselors by deflecting attention from his sin and focusing upon the sin of the mistreated spouse. Over time, as the oppression continues […]
Helping Churches to Better Handle Cases of Abuse
Sadly, I have been witness to a discouraging pattern in local churches as they handle cases involving abuse. It begins as church leaders are made aware of a situation in which a husband is acting abusively towards his wife, and it has been going on for quite some time. The abuse may include any or […]
Why I wrote Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage: Critical Questions and Answers
I am very thankful and excited that P&R has published my new book, Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage: Critical Questions and Answers. I loved writing this particular book for at least three reasons: I marvel at God’s beautiful design for marriage because it reflects His gracious love for us in Christ. Studying marriage builds up my […]
