A few years ago, I wrote two blogs expressing concern that biblical counselors need to approach the very sensitive and important issue of abuse in a scripturally balanced way. You can find Part One here and Part Two here. I began the previous blogs with an acknowledgment that the church and biblical counselors have often […]
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Truth in Love Podcast, Episode 292: A Kind Critique of the Five Love Languages
Dale Johnson interviewed me on Gary Chapman’s highly popular The 5 Love Languages, in which I give a “Kind Critique”.
Lessons Learned from a Fallen Pastor
Introduction (by Jim Newheiser) Recently, the BCC presented a blog about “Helping Adult Victims of Clergy Sexual Abuse,” authored by Caroline Newheiser along with an anonymous victim. A fallen pastor who read Caroline’s blog contacted me and wanted to tell his story as a warning to church leaders, so we have written this blog together. […]
A Phased Reopening of a Formerly Abusive Marriage
During the COVID crisis, restrictions have been put in place which have sometimes kept people apart for the purpose of safety. For counseling cases in which there has been marital abuse the victim often must be separated from the abuser for the sake of safety. During this time, we counsel the abuser separate from the […]
The Battleship of Abuse
Do you remember playing the game Battleship when you were a kid? You would try to discover where your opponent had stationed his ships on a grid representing the ocean so you could shoot and sink them. One shot, however, wouldn’t sink a battleship. Some ships could be sunk with as few as two hits […]
What Does the Bible Say About Divorce and Remarriage?
James Newheiser, Jr. answers the question, “What does the Bible say about divorce and remarriage?” He addresses: Biblical grounds for divorce (:40) Unfaithfulness, repentance, forgiveness, and reconciliation (1:24) Abandonment and sanctification (6:00) When a spouse leaves (10:21) Abuse as a form of abandonment (12:25) When the abuser is a “believer” (14:40) The nature of the […]
Georgia Discipleship and Counseling Network Webinar: Jim and Caroline Newheiser
Helping in Cases Involving an Insubmissive Wife
Editor’s Note: In this first article of a three-part mini-series on the BCC Grace and Truth blog addressing counseling the husband of an insubmissive wife, Jim Newheiser discusses submission in light of biblical marriage roles and offers counsel on what can be done when a husband and wife have differing views on marriage roles. In other […]
Counseling Care for Domestic Abuse
I am VERY excited about the new IBCD observation video series on spousal abuse. Dr. Jeremy Pierre of Southern Seminary does an amazing job of portraying the subtle but coercive ways of the abuser. Chris Moles does a masterful job of confronting the abuser while gently educating the well-meaning pastor (played by Craig Marshall) on […]
Educating Your Elders About Abuse
Well-meaning church leaders often fail to distinguish between ordinary marital conflict and situations in which one spouse is abusing the other. The abusive spouse, usually the husband, is often able to manipulate inexperienced counselors by deflecting attention from his sin and focusing upon the sin of the mistreated spouse. Over time, as the oppression continues […]